Category: Marriage

Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 (NKJV) 1 To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven: 2 A time to be born, And a time to die; A time to plant, And a time to pluck what is planted;

Greetings!

Thank you for joining us as we complete our study on the beautiful, Biblical institution of marriage; one man and one woman becoming one flesh.

After spending many years together, often decades, the sudden separation of two people leaves a gaping hole that takes much time to heal.

There will always be a place in our heart that holds onto that person, even if it does fade with time.

The surviving person must now learn to live without their spouse.

They must learn to live with a massive void in their life that they have no idea how to fill.

As I walked my friend through his loss and his grief several years ago, he expressed anger with his situation.

He wrestled with the fact that God created man and woman to become one, only to be inevitably torn apart at some point.

He struggled with feelings of betrayal, not by his wife, but by God Himself who created this holy union between a man and a woman.

I realize now, years later, that his anger was not so much genuine anger toward God as it was feelings of frustration with being left alone and losing the one he loved so dearly and had grown so close to over their years together.

But it is important for us to understand that this void left by the loss of a spouse proves and confirms that two individual people do in fact become one flesh, just as God’s word teaches us.

Thus, the great struggle to move beyond the devastation and loss and live life again.

It does happen. Life does go on despite the remaining person wondering if that is even possible.

But each person recovers differently, in their own time, as they let God heal their heart and help them move forward one little step at a time.

There are valuable lessons for each of us to learn, both as someone who loses a spouse, and for those who help someone who has lost their lifetime love.

And there are opportunities for each of us to help someone who is grieving by being there for them to talk to, cry with, and hold onto tightly as they walk through their mourning.

We hope these messages have helped bring a better understanding of two human beings becoming one as ordained and designed by God.

Pastor Curt & Pastor Ellie

Seven Seas Ministries
49 N Lamplighters Walk
Hampstead, NC 28443

401-439-3780

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Matthew 19:6 (NKJV) 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

What God has joined, let no one divide.

Several years ago, I had the privilege of walking a good friend through the loss of his longtime wife.

I consider it a privilege because it allowed me to walk through some of his grief with him, feeling some of what he was feeling as it unfolded. And it taught me a lot as it played out.

I was obviously not feeling everything he felt. That would be impossible.

But I got to see and hear firsthand what he was experiencing after losing the one he had spent so many of his years with and loved so very deeply.

To be honest, some of it was gut-wrenching. The anguish he felt was immense.

And this incredible pain caused him to feel things and say things that were quite raw, and even brutal, in the sense that he questioned whether he was partially to blame for her dying, even though she had died from multiple medical conditions that were completely out of his control.

Grief can do that to a person. It can cause them to question so many things that we would never think of in ordinary situations.

Why does this happen? Why is the pain so intense when a spouse leaves their lifelong partner behind?

It is the “becoming one” principal.

As individuals, we are just that; one person. We have no other parts or counterparts. It is us, alone.

But as we grow to become on with another human being, as God intended it to be, we are now no longer just a single individual. We are two people acting in unison, living as one in marriage.

And this does something to us emotionally.

It is this that causes such deep anguish when one departs.

Two becoming one is something that is beautiful and frightening at the same time.

Beautiful in the sense that it gives us the opportunity to share our lives, and its most intimate moments, with someone we love deeply.

Frightening in the sense that one of those two people will leave this earth before the other, leaving the remaining person behind and alone, having to start over again without them.

Let us finish this up tomorrow.

Pastor Curt & Pastor Ellie

Seven Seas Ministries
49 N Lamplighters Walk
Hampstead, NC 28443

401-439-3780

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Mark 10:7-8 (NKJV) 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.

And the two shall become one.

This is a profound statement.

Most people fail to understand it at its deepest levels.

And I have found a frustrating lack of study references that sufficiently explain this God-ordained phenomenon.

Most of these references focus solely on the sanctity of the marriage vows, and the divorce aspects of marriage.

So, I will attempt to put words down on paper that will help bring understanding to this incredible topic that will do it justice.

Over the last few months, I have been pondering frequently on two people becoming one. I am beginning to understand it in its fullness, in ways that I previously failed to grasp.

Pastor Ellie and I have been married for more than 42 years now. We met while still teenagers and have been together since then.

We have become more one than two.

A married couple becoming one is about more than just sexual intimacy. It goes much deeper than that.

As two individuals commit their lives to each other, learn about each other, grow closer, and understand each other more fully, they become more united and less divided.

They begin to act more in unity. They are slowly becoming one.

This happens over time. It takes time and a deliberate effort on both parts.

And this “becoming one” process is not without its bumps in the road.

Let’s talk about this more tomorrow.

Pastor Curt & Pastor Ellie

Seven Seas Ministries
49 N Lamplighters Walk
Hampstead, NC 28443

401-439-3780

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Mark 10:7-9 (NKJV) 7 ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

The Biblical institution of marriage, holy matrimony, is one that so few can fully understand or comprehend in its deepest meaning.

Marriage is more than a man and woman being united by a ceremony.

Marriage, in its truest meaning, is symbolic of our union with God, being united with Him in purity and sanctification.

God’s intent for marriage was more than just mushy emotions and warm fuzzy feelings.

Marriage was intended to emulate the joining of our heart to God. It was intended to be holy and lifelong. And it was designed that the man would represent God being united with His bride, the body of Christ.

The physical intimacy between a man and woman was designed by God to be holy; symbolic of a pure, intimate relationship between God and the body of Christ.

And, just as a human marital relation is intended and designed to grow over time, to become stronger, so is our relationship with God designed to be.

Some marriages fail. But this is not due to any error or failure on God’s part. Humans are frail and fickle, and sometimes we just cannot seem to get things right.

But when a man and woman are married for a lengthy period of time, and they give the relationship the time and attention it is due, that relationship flourishes. And the two become more united.

This is more than just a physical, sexual bond.

The couple becomes one emotionally, learning and growing to understand each other better as they spend more years together.

And it is this growing union that causes such distress when one of the two leaves this earth and moves on to eternity.

There is a brokenness that takes place in the remaining spouse that words can never sufficiently describe. Anyone reading this who has walked through it will agree wholeheartedly. You may even be nodding in agreement as you read these words.

Some may struggle deeply with their loss, fighting to hold on to their desire to live.

Others may express anger with God for taking their spouse.

But in the end, it is God who gives us the hope and the strength to push through the trauma of our loss, if we allow Him to help us.

If you are married, we encourage you, both husband and wife, to give your marriage 110%. Every relationship is worth the effort required to make it work.

And if you are one who was married for a long time, and you have lost your spouse, we speak life and healing into your broken heart, in the name of Jesus.

May you look to Him for your solace, your healing, and your recovery as you pick up the pieces and move forward one step at a time.

We love you all.

Pastor Curt & Pastor Ellie

Seven Seas Ministries
49 N Lamplighters Walk
Hampstead, NC 28443

401-439-3780

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